A reader asks, "What if your kids hate the person you are
dating? Is there any hope?"
Shirley
Cress Dudley responds-
Great question. Right now, your kids
are responding to the fact that mom and dad aren't together. Anyone you
choose to date will not be popular with them.
There are several things you can do
- Remind your kids that you need adult companionship and will be
dating.
- Tell them that this person does not replace their other parent, but
will be someone you choose.
- Let them know that there is no competition between them and your
new companion. You love them the same and always will.
Look at it from a different perspective
The person you are dating is someone you
choose- not your kids. If your kids are still young (under 18) and
this new person may end up as a step parent to them- look for not only a good
mate but a good parent to your kids. Someone who will love your kids and
be patient as they get used to this "new world" will be the best mate
for you and a good step parent to your kids.
For more information, check out Blended Family Advice ebook.
